Are you ready to get over the mom guilt and end the overwhelm of what tomorrow may bring?  Understanding empowerment and how it helps moms battling anxiety and depression is a must-read.  Mom, you are the biggest influencer in your kiddos’ lives.  It is crucial that you influence fearless confidence, resilient energy, and brilliant clarity into their lives.  We must end the trend of statistics of anxiety and depression.  Creating a life that is energetically alive and fiercely free with empowerment is the answer.  As a gift for your time, you will be provided with 5 empowering strategies you can use today.

How Empowerment Overcomes Anxiety and Depression

How Empowerment Overcomes Anxiety and Depression I 5 Empowering Strategies for Moms  I  Desire, Need, and Will For Personal Growth I  Welcoming Self-Awareness I  Identity Clarity  I    Helpful Thinking & Feeling I  Develop Effective Communication Skills  

5 Empowering Strategies for Moms

The Google search for the meaning of empowerment populates two very powerful definitions.  The first is “authority or power given to someone to do something.”  Secondly, “the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights.”  As a mom who struggled with anxiety and depression for many years, this one word saved me from disaster and chaos. 

You may be asking or wondering how.  Anxiety and depression create mind chaos.  There is so much constant daily noise going on that it blocks out the truth.  What is the truth?  The truth is that we each have the authority and the power to choose a different way to live our life.  Why and how could anyone choose to live life in such a way of destruction?

I told myself over and over again, I wouldn’t do that.  I told myself that what I was experiencing was out of my control.  Heck, even society said it’s not my fault and it wasn’t something I could control without medication and therapy.  But, that one word, EMPOWERMENT, simply stuck with me in my soul.  One question whispered in my heart, “What if the real issue was that I simply didn’t know how to silence the mind chaos?” 

WOW!

 If I knew how to silence the mind chaos, wouldn’t I do it?  You better believe I would.  So did I really have a choice to overcome anxiety and depression?  Absolutely!  I simply hadn’t discovered how.

The journey to understanding the second portion of the definition of empowerment began.  The endless scrolling through TikTok and Netflix binging was replaced with research and understanding.  Many thought I had officially lost it.  I challenge you to ask yourself this, however.  What would it mean to you if you could discover “the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights?”

That’s when I discovered these 5 empowering strategies for moms to overcome anxiety and depression to create an empowered life.  After discovering empowerment, I was energetically alive.  I live life with purpose and intention.  Knowing who I am and who I am becoming is peace.  Fiercely free to make progress and achieve my vision and goals is confidence.  Developing communication and determination in my decisions led to success.

It all started with the insane desire, need, and will for personal growth.  The reality is that moms have great power and an even greater responsibility. 

“Moms are the greatest influencing factor in their children’s success.”

The energy we radiate into our children’s lives matters.  That is how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression.  If that doesn’t create immediate desire, need, and will, for your own personal growth please ask yourself what can. 

Strategy #1: Desire, Need, and Will For Personal Growth

Discovering that I did desire and needed to live life, a sudden will to discover how ached within me.  For so long, I believed that something was wrong with me.  I was broken with no fix because meds and therapy didn’t work for me.  That was a lie!  All I needed was to become aware to my desire, need, and will for personal growth.

My children were not cursed to live life with the emotional rollercoaster of a mom.  The sudden rage, sadness, and lack of interest in my life and that of my kiddos’ lives began to disappear.  Understanding that each individual person is unique and not one is perfect was key.

There is no way to take back a past mistake.  The ability to change and not repeat it was what was within my control.  And with that, the fear of what outcomes tomorrow would bring ended.  The desire to continue that pattern every day became a need.  Why?  The will for my personal growth grew.   With it grew a connection to myself and my kiddos. 

“The magnificent transformation began when my desire to change was greater than my need to stay the same and my will was applied.”

I had created my own darkness.  How?  By waiting for another to provide a solution for my life.  The entire time everything I was seeking was within me.  Your solutions are within you also.  As a mom coach who has lived with the anxiety and depression labels, being an empowerment coach has allowed me to see lives transform before my very eyes.  An honor I am grateful for every day. 

It begins with the desire, need, and will for personal growth. That will allow for the welcoming of self-awareness.  This process of empowerment allows you to have a vision and set goals.  You gain control over yourself and self-regulate your emotions.  It’s a brilliant next step.  That is how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression.

Now let me ask you.  Do you desire it?  Is there a need for it in your life?  Can you will it for your personal growth against anxiety and depression?

Strategy #2: Welcoming Self-Awareness

Many of my emotional rollercoasters were triggered by life experience and memories.  So many things in the past still had control in my present.  Mind chaos was deciding my current state.  It was creating destruction in my today.  How could I continue to allow something I despised to control me?  It was preventing me from being the best mom I could be for my kiddos.  Staying stuck and trapped from achieving progress in my life ended now.

That was the day that I made a choice.  A decision to start welcoming self-awareness into my life.  Accepting responsibility for all of my decisions was challenging. 

“Too often we blame others for what has happened in our lives giving them more power than they should have over us.” 

We accept it as a reason why we cannot achieve our vision and goals.  Too often we can say it is too late or there’s too much going on.  When you begin welcoming self-awareness, you realize this is where your stress lives.

Empowerment sees something different.  What if what you really need is space to silence the mind chaos.  Silencing the mind chaos will allow the self-awareness of who you are in your soul and spirit.  Taking the time to connect to the one pure power, God will provide you with identity clarity.  Welcoming self-awareness will eliminate conditioned beliefs and limitations.

Being fiercely free means welcoming self-awareness and silencing mind chaos.  This is how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression.  It is also how you begin living a vibrant life being energetically alive.  Radiate positive energy into your children’s lives by welcoming self-awareness.  You have the authority to choose and decide what today will bring.  This is how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression. 

Strategy #3: Identity Clarity

Mind chaos is loud, maddening and leads to a very dark place.  Moms experience this at an extreme level.  When my second son was born, he was colicky.  Desperation took on a whole new meaning.  No matter what I did he cried.  Lack of sleep, guilt of not knowing how to ease my son’s anguish, and all of the crying created a huge disconnect.  A disconnect of being able to feel joy and peace with my child.  What kind of a mom was I?

Very quickly things spiraled down.  What I did not realize was that I was a single, teenage mom of two doing it on my own.  This was my second child, and I was recovering from a second break up with his dad.  Living in a household where I felt judged was unhealthy.  There was no emotional support.  So, everything I was experiencing was because I needed space to breathe.

However, mind chaos had completely taken over.  I identified with being a bad mom.  Someone who only made bad decisions and made a mess of everything.  Identifying that this was a consequence of a “sin”, sex out of marriage was more torture.  Then the many childhood and recent comments from those who were assigned to protect me grew louder.  My new identity became that of someone unworthy of anything good.

Although your story may be different it may be relatable.  A choice made with good intentions defying those around you.  Having faith in something or someone wholeheartedly.  Basing a decision on that.  And the unexpected outcome that is not in your favor.  You feel like an idiot and mind chaos takes over.  Now, you identify as a person not being worthy, a failure, not good enough, destined for misery, etc.  It is a LIE!

“You are not your life experiences.  You are soul and spirit beautifully connected.”

You are not successful or a failure because of what has happened to you in your life.  You can discover who you are in identity clarity.  From the moment you are born, you have a soul.  A soul that is connected to a beautiful spirit.  Those two parts of your being is where you find identity clarity. 

Life experiences are meant for you to grow into the next level version of your being not hinder you.  Mind chaos has another agenda.  Will you choose to allow mind chaos to control your life?  Or will you choose to silence mind chaos by finding your identity clarity?  Choosing identity clarity is how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression.

You will be WOW’d at how this leads to silencing mind chaos.  The new tranquil sound of helpful thinking and feeling will begin to flow through the essence of who you are.  Claiming your authority empowers you to be energetically alive and fiercely free to be the mom you want to be.

Strategy #4: Helpful Thinking & Feeling

Understanding empowerment requires understanding helpful thinking and how it creates helpful feeling.  Have you ever watched a movie and it affected your entire day?  There is one Netflix series that I cannot finish.  It is called “When They See Us”.  It is a soul-crushing true story that is very violent and deals with kids.  Rage fills my heart at the injustice.  Sadness at people’s cruelty. 

And although it is necessary to be aware of these things there is no helpful thinking resulting from that.  The helpful thinking that may result from that is the awareness that I need to be knowledgeable of civil rights.  This may be useful one day to protect against abuses of authority.  It may also result in helpful thinking if I take a stand against these abuses of power.  However, if I simply focus on those people’s hurt and injustice and the feelings of rage and sadness it is not helpful thinking and feeling.

With anxiety and depression the same applies.  Let’s think about it.  When someone asks you are you okay or how can I help, how does it make you feel?  What thoughts cross your mind?  Is it helpful?

Or let’s ask, when you are experiencing anxiety and depression and focus on sadness, rage, emptiness, loneliness how is that helpful?  I have a challenge for you.  Instead of focusing on sadness, rage, overwhelm, emptiness, loneliness, or guilt, what if you used that energy to focus on what you do want. 

“Get mad at your anxiety and depression and focus inward on what you would rather have.  Then use that energy to create the will to get it.”  

What you think will either be helpful or destructive.  Helpful thinking is a matter of one simple shift that can alter your feeling.  There is one simple question you can ask when you are experiencing destructive thinking. 

“What can I do to improve this situation?”

If you can find a will within you to do something, use your energy to create a plan to do it.  Decide and focus on that.  That is how helpful thinking and feeling lead to empowerment.  That is how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression.  At times, you will have to use your voice to improve your situation.  That is why developing effective communication skills is also important to empowerment. 

Strategy #5: Developing Effective Communication Skills

How many times have you had to apologize for something you said?  Or you had to repeat it because the person didn’t understand you.  Heck, you didn’t understand what you said.  Our communication skills are usually established by those that we surround ourselves by, we are influenced in our language and communication.  That is why people from different territories speak differently.  As a mom, it is crucial to keep developing effective communication skills.

Moms are the biggest influencers in the children’s lives.  With that being said, you likely have caught yourself repeating some things that your mom said to you as a child.  Things you swore to never tell your child.  Those are communication styles or skills that have been impressed upon you.  It is also part of the mind chaos.

What do we do with the mind chaos?  We silence it.

How?

By developing effective communication skills.  Anxiety and depression control many of our thoughts during mind chaos.  Silencing it creates space and peace for growth.  If you can use the above four strategies you will find that you have more space.  With this space, take the time to breathe.  Breathe in gratefulness and breathe out overwhelm and resentment.  You can breathe in power and control and breathe out the past and anger.  Inhale life and positive energy and exhale doubt and fear. 

After you do this, place your hands over your heart.  What words do you feel?  Write them down.  If there are negative words, acknowledge and release them.  Those positive words that came up, apply them and use them towards one kindness.  Take a sticky note and write one positive statement to yourself and every person in your family.  A smile given goes a long way.

Speaking from a place of anger comes from a build up of negativity.  If you can acknowledge and release that negativity your words will be more effective.  The more kind words and positive words you have in your heart and mind, then when you speak it will express kindness and positivity.  Amazingly, yes, even to yourself.  Silence that mind chaos.  Allow for the brilliant light within you to shine.

This will take time to develop.  Allow a few minutes to silence the mind chaos and allow your soul and spirit to connect daily.  Developing effective communication skills is crucial to empowerment.  There will always be good and bad.  Creating the balance is necessary to effectively communicate.  I prefer to do this in the mornings and before bed.  Important conversations do not happen before this is completed.

This is how effective communication leads to empowerment.  It is also how empowerment overcomes anxiety and depression.  If you can have authority over your words and emotional responses then you will be energetically alive and fiercely free to be the mom you want to be.

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Empowerment is essential to nurturing a healthy lifestyle for yourself and your kiddos.  As a mom coach, that guides moms along the journey of empowerment, I know the dramatic difference it can make.  Anxiety and depression are not to be ignored or built upon.  Perhaps meds and therapy work for you.  Or maybe you prefer an alternative approach, a holistic approach.  If so, try these five strategies and let me know how they work for you. 

• Desire, Need, and Will for your personal growth;
• Practice self-awareness
• Get identity clarity
• Use helpful thinking & feeling skills
• Develop essential communication skills

A more tailored approach is available.  Interested?  I invite you to message me.  Not ready yet?

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